So what do you do when your husband isn't supporting you on your health journey? Do you tell him to suck it up? Do you give up and just keep going with whatever makes him happy? Do you try and rearrange your schedule to make it more comfortable for him?
I think it is a combination of them all.
See I have been working out now for several months but just recently I've really hit it hard when I finally found my want to. In the last 3 weeks I have been working out 5 to 6 times a week at night after everyone is in bed. During those 3 weeks my husband has been working 12+ hour days 6 to 7 days a week so we haven't seen each other much. It's been a bit crazy and he misses us. So I can't blame him when he's not thrilled to see me heading to the gym again. But I have to!
I have to keep going! I only have 51 pounds to lose and I think I can do that in 6 months if I just stick to it and work really hard. If I can accomplish my goal in 6 months that isn't years. We can handle struggles for 6 months. We can handle not going to bed together every night for 6 months. It's a small sacrifice to make myself more healthy with more energy and confidence after years of self doubt and lack of motivation.
First I talked with him about the length of my goal. I explained to him that it should only take about 6 months if I work really hard. This works out perfectly because our lease is up in about 6 months and we are trying to move to the country which means at least a 30 minute drive to a gym or lots of money for home equipment.
Second I let him know that I miss him too. That I really don't like going to the gym every night. That I would rather be home with him. But I know that this is really important for me to accomplish. I don't want to give up again.
Third I explained that I really need his support. I explained that when he gets frustrated with my workouts that it makes me want to give up and just not go. I have very little want to. I haven't been getting great results because of the holiday's and that's frustrating. I really need him to help me keep up with what I'm doing.
After our conversation he really considered what I'm doing, the length of time I will need, and what the outcome will be. He has been much more supportive through this now. He's actually been off work because of the holiday's so I've been able to get early workouts in and he's been able to help with the boys and get them in bed.
After the first of the year I might try to switch my schedule to get up early in the morning (like 4am...yuck) to get a good workout in before he goes to work. I will talk to him after a few weeks into 2014 and see how he is feeling and then go from there.
I think when your spouse is having a hard time with your workout schedule it's important to have communication about it and try to compromise on what will work well for everyone. I'm not sure that the morning workouts will be successful for me because I'm not a morning person, I'm a night owl, but if I need to try it to help make my husband happy then I'm willing to make that compromise. And of course if I try it and it's just not working then it will be time to talk again and find a new compromise.
Enjoy your workout today!
First I talked with him about the length of my goal. I explained to him that it should only take about 6 months if I work really hard. This works out perfectly because our lease is up in about 6 months and we are trying to move to the country which means at least a 30 minute drive to a gym or lots of money for home equipment.
Second I let him know that I miss him too. That I really don't like going to the gym every night. That I would rather be home with him. But I know that this is really important for me to accomplish. I don't want to give up again.
Third I explained that I really need his support. I explained that when he gets frustrated with my workouts that it makes me want to give up and just not go. I have very little want to. I haven't been getting great results because of the holiday's and that's frustrating. I really need him to help me keep up with what I'm doing.
After our conversation he really considered what I'm doing, the length of time I will need, and what the outcome will be. He has been much more supportive through this now. He's actually been off work because of the holiday's so I've been able to get early workouts in and he's been able to help with the boys and get them in bed.
After the first of the year I might try to switch my schedule to get up early in the morning (like 4am...yuck) to get a good workout in before he goes to work. I will talk to him after a few weeks into 2014 and see how he is feeling and then go from there.
I think when your spouse is having a hard time with your workout schedule it's important to have communication about it and try to compromise on what will work well for everyone. I'm not sure that the morning workouts will be successful for me because I'm not a morning person, I'm a night owl, but if I need to try it to help make my husband happy then I'm willing to make that compromise. And of course if I try it and it's just not working then it will be time to talk again and find a new compromise.
Enjoy your workout today!
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