Media Monday (Wednesday whatever) this week is about Media in a Marriage, particularly my marriage. Media plays a huge role in our household and our marriage in mostly a negative way. Being married to a non-believer (or as I say still angry with God) creates some differences in how we believe things should be done. Personally I'm striving to cut out as much media as possible. Yes I have a facebook page, twitter, google+, a blog and several different email accounts. Plus a business that is run all online so I have a lot to get sucked into. I also have a blackberry that all notifications get sent to. We also have very basic cable.
The TV plays a big part in our evening and weekend family time. The hubby prefers to veg out on the couch when he gets home from work and doesn't really see anything wrong with it. I understand that he works at least 12 hours days but still we need him too. He also tends to watch things like Family Guy or the Simpsons which I find highly inappropriate for Rex to watch. He doesn't see an issue. So normally our family time consists of me trying to get Rex to pay attention to anything but the cartoon's on the TV and when I'm unable to do that I pray and pray and pray for protection of his mind.
I have decided that I'm going to set the example that I want our household to follow and what I think would be best. I have not turned on the TV I think in about 1 1/2 weeks. Instead we spend time reading, playing, or coloring when I'm on the computer. We also head outside when it's not super hot or when the mosquitoes are not out (which is never with all the rain we have been having). I also encourage Rex to help me cook so that way he's not watching the TV or the shows I don't want him exposed to.
Personally it is very hard not to get sucked into all of the media around us and I have spent many hours playing FarmVille and watching TV or reading blogs after my hubby goes to bed or while he's watching TV in the other room. But over that last two years I have done much better and I'm continuing to grow. So last Monday I said I set some goals for myself so I will let you know how I did and what worked.
First I did ok with the going to bed with the hubs. There were a couple nights that I was finally able to sit down to relax right about 9pm and he got up and went to bed. Those few nights I stayed up just a little bit longer (9:30) and read so that I could settle down and actually sleep. I did make sure that I did not get on the computer. I read a book or the Bible and then went to bed. This made it so I didn't get sucked in to the media and stay up until midnight. I really think that the hubby noticed a change because his attitude changed. I also made sure that even if I was up really late that I got up in the morning with him to make breakfast and get him out the door. He seemed to go to work in a better mood and able to come home more happy. I believe that he felt that I was putting him first on my priority list instead of the computer. He then left town for a few days and just got back and we are working on getting back into the swing of things here at home. (When he was gone it seemed as though the whole world stopped running smoothly and everything came crashing down...more on that in another post).
The hubby did start to help out with bedtime on the nights that I was able walk. Rex really enjoys this time with his Daddy. The only problem I have with this is that the hubby not believing in God is not encouraging praying before bed. I am trying to encourage praying throughout the day to help reinforce this practice. I'm just not sure what else to do. I really need to get out and walk and get some recover time for myself so this just may have to be sacrificed several nights a week.
I'm also not waking Rex up in the morning. He's waking up on his own when he is ready. He is super cranky if I wake him up and I felt it just wasn't worth it.
After the hubs leaves for work I do spend my time catching up on blogs and I also do my Bible time too. It really helps me get a great start to the morning.
Now tomorrow is a different story but I'm going to do my best to still be able to help support my hubby even though I have to leave the house before he does. It should be interesting. It's late but I wanted to get this post done before it turned into Thursday!
Check out more Media Monday post at Women Living Well!
The TV plays a big part in our evening and weekend family time. The hubby prefers to veg out on the couch when he gets home from work and doesn't really see anything wrong with it. I understand that he works at least 12 hours days but still we need him too. He also tends to watch things like Family Guy or the Simpsons which I find highly inappropriate for Rex to watch. He doesn't see an issue. So normally our family time consists of me trying to get Rex to pay attention to anything but the cartoon's on the TV and when I'm unable to do that I pray and pray and pray for protection of his mind.
I have decided that I'm going to set the example that I want our household to follow and what I think would be best. I have not turned on the TV I think in about 1 1/2 weeks. Instead we spend time reading, playing, or coloring when I'm on the computer. We also head outside when it's not super hot or when the mosquitoes are not out (which is never with all the rain we have been having). I also encourage Rex to help me cook so that way he's not watching the TV or the shows I don't want him exposed to.
Personally it is very hard not to get sucked into all of the media around us and I have spent many hours playing FarmVille and watching TV or reading blogs after my hubby goes to bed or while he's watching TV in the other room. But over that last two years I have done much better and I'm continuing to grow. So last Monday I said I set some goals for myself so I will let you know how I did and what worked.
First I did ok with the going to bed with the hubs. There were a couple nights that I was finally able to sit down to relax right about 9pm and he got up and went to bed. Those few nights I stayed up just a little bit longer (9:30) and read so that I could settle down and actually sleep. I did make sure that I did not get on the computer. I read a book or the Bible and then went to bed. This made it so I didn't get sucked in to the media and stay up until midnight. I really think that the hubby noticed a change because his attitude changed. I also made sure that even if I was up really late that I got up in the morning with him to make breakfast and get him out the door. He seemed to go to work in a better mood and able to come home more happy. I believe that he felt that I was putting him first on my priority list instead of the computer. He then left town for a few days and just got back and we are working on getting back into the swing of things here at home. (When he was gone it seemed as though the whole world stopped running smoothly and everything came crashing down...more on that in another post).
The hubby did start to help out with bedtime on the nights that I was able walk. Rex really enjoys this time with his Daddy. The only problem I have with this is that the hubby not believing in God is not encouraging praying before bed. I am trying to encourage praying throughout the day to help reinforce this practice. I'm just not sure what else to do. I really need to get out and walk and get some recover time for myself so this just may have to be sacrificed several nights a week.
I'm also not waking Rex up in the morning. He's waking up on his own when he is ready. He is super cranky if I wake him up and I felt it just wasn't worth it.
After the hubs leaves for work I do spend my time catching up on blogs and I also do my Bible time too. It really helps me get a great start to the morning.
Now tomorrow is a different story but I'm going to do my best to still be able to help support my hubby even though I have to leave the house before he does. It should be interesting. It's late but I wanted to get this post done before it turned into Thursday!
Check out more Media Monday post at Women Living Well!
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